Saturday, December 22, 2018

3 Incredible Steps to Help You with Sex and Christmas

Nothing can teach us about Christmas like sex work and a farm. 

Having just spent two years living in a red light district in Hong Kong, I was around a lot of people making sex decisions based on desires that had nothing to do with love. I handed those people cookies. 

Raised on a farm with pigs, I'm familiar with the smell of where animals live. Stink. 

The scent coming out of the hearts of people in the red light districts, I could recognize it anywhere. My heart's had the same aroma; farm animal dung. The fragrance of lust, jealousy, hate, pride; all sin smells like rivers of feces under the hog house, except worse. 

 Who would want to touch this place? Who would want to even look at it? The stench is thick. 

But then I remember Christmas.

Jesus, the light of the world, became a newborn baby and chose a stink and dirt-filled barn to be His first place to rest. His sweet, perfect, tiny God-body, laying there in the stench of animal manure. 

It showed us what He was aimed to do: make disgusting places His home. 

We've all got these hearts that have tendencies to get dirty, but what I'm finding is that Jesus wants to come in anyway. He enters the red light districts like He entered the dirty barn in Bethlehem, and like He continues to enter my own stinky messes. He loves being with us, and when we let Him, He cleans our stink. 

Do you want to have sex with someone you aren't married to? Or maybe you are having sex with someone you aren't married to? Or maybe you're super jealous and having trouble loving anybody? Or maybe you're just mean? 

Later, Jesus went to Matthew's home to share a meal with him (Matthew was a sinful traitor). Many other tax collectors and outcasts of society were invited to eat with Jesus...
-Matthew 9:10

I don't know what sort of feces is trying to stink up your heart, but I know the God who was born in a barn in Bethlehem. And He wants to come into that mess and rest there. He'll clean it if you'll let Him.   

Three incredible steps to help you with sex (or any other genre of sin) and Christmas; 

1. Recognize your mess
Examine your heart and get honest with yourself, then share those honest findings with God. 

2. Talk to Him about it
Tell Him what you're feeling, how hard it is, and everything else related to your mess. Depending on how far into your mess you are, you may need to tell God you're sorry (He loves to forgive). 

3. Invite Him in
Ask Jesus to come into your mess. Invite Him to clean it up and to help you listen to all the help and love He has for you. Ask Him to show you how much He loves you; pause and listen. Read the Bible. 

The Bethlehem Barn King sees you, sees your mess, and do you know what His Heart is filled with? Love. If you've been loving Him your whole life but find your heart in a mess, or if you don't know Him but want to, or if you're doing fine and dandy and mess-free and just want more of Him, invite Him in. To be close to you is what He wants this Christmas. 


After wrapping the newborn baby in strips of cloth, they laid him in a feeding trough since there was no available space in any upper room in the village.
-Luke 2:7

Then Jesus said, “I am light to the world and those who embrace Me will experience life-giving light, and they will never walk in darkness.”
-Jesus
John 8:12